How to raise successful kids — without over-parenting | Julie Lythcott-Haims

By loading kids with high expectations and micromanaging their lives at every turn, parents aren’t actually helping. At least, that’s how Julie Lythcott-Haims sees …

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  1. joe fran

    Parents, control what your children eat! Don't let you kids become obese, especially girls girls that are fat, will lose their power as they get older!

  2. Katharina Ingwerkatze

    I didn't like school and I always heard "You can't do it." I wanted to become an artist and always heard "You can't make money with art." That's why I always tell my daughter she can do it, she can do everything and if she needs help I will be there. And I ask her every day if she had a good time in kindergarden. I hope she will become a happy person regardless of how much money she makes or how successful she will be. I just want her to live a happy life and reach her own goals.

  3. Prince George

    I would wish indian parents should watch this and encourage there children to do what there children are best/talented in because money is secondary,primary is interest and happiness (if he or she is happy to do job money and anything related to success will follow you) #dowhaturgood@

  4. Lenin Lenin

    my parents are like this you know. that must have messed up the readers here. they tell me i dont need good grades, just enjoy school. but never did they show emotion. never did they say sorry for their mistakes while raising me up. i was passed on to people so they can work. i am glad they have work, that i can eat everyday, i can dress up in clothes that fit, albeit the fact that they are 50% hand me downs from them and 30% super old. i am really. glad that they don’t pressure me. but the fact that they dont know they treat me like i am just a passing thing, ill be gone soon. i feel like wishing i was never been part of my family. less mouth to feed. annyeong world

  5. Khalid Hoqoq

    LOL – is this what rich people do? Your top 1%? They give their kids unconditional love? Sure, but they also have their check lists. People, don't listen to this woman! She represents the top 1% and her entire goal is convince us to let go of our children, and let them grow like wild-flowers that eventually some Capitalist would cut and throw away. No – Love is good, checklists are good too.

  6. Olu F

    Wow! this is beautiful. Through loving them the way they are even when they fail, they become a well rounded human being. My son when he was 2 years away from applying for University will study with his ear piece in his ears on his bed. Started behaving rebelliously and I told him that from experience that I do not see him passing that year. He kept saying Mum I know what I am doing, though not a genius he never failed before. Lo and behold he failed that year, he monitored the mails and made sure he got his result before we saw it and destroyed it. Above all he was disappointed at himself he nearly found it difficult to forgive himself. But my words to him were failure is part of life when we fail we just have to learn from it and move on. From that time we never tell him to study anymore, all we did was to support and encourage him. No one is perfect but unconditional love is the way forward.